Words, Communication and Community as a Power

Oh the world we live in!

You know, in certain situations, telling it (or writing it) like it is can be the best avenue of approach, especially when dealing with an act so unconscionable, so morally deplorable it knots one's stomach in apoplectic rage.

The author of a hate-filled letter directed at Max Begley, an autistic boy from Ontario, has inspired the ire of an entire nation, if not the world.  The letter went viral, and the overwhelming response to this self-described "pissed-off mother" has been loud and reverberating disgust.  Though none have been as colorfully eloquent as Canadian Blogger, Idnami.  Her clear, overtly sardonic, matter-of-fact, and yes, sometimes saucy retort to this repugnant woman sends a clear and appropriate message - bullies are assholes and need to be called out with all the vim, vigor and legal support an empathetic society can muster.

Now, I love words.  Their endless shapes and subtlety of meaning.  Idnami's letter contains no subtlety.  And it shouldn't.  Here simply is a wonderfully acerbic response to a soulless and intolerant creature we all have the great displeasure of sharing our planet.  Will she learn from this experience and the community response against her?  Will she ever comprehend the evil of wishing euthanasia upon a special needs child?   Likely not.  And Max Begley?  He will continue with the love of his parents and extended family, throwing balls over fences and basking in the support of a stand-up community who came out loud and clear against another bully in our midst.

See Idnami's letter below, or click the link here.

Warning!  There is very strong language in this letter.

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An open letter to the bitch that wrote this letter

And the award for Worst Human Being on the Planet goes to…

Well I’m torn between Vladimir Putin and the CEO of Nestle. However second prize, hands down, goes to this bitch:

And here is what I have to say to that:

Dear One pissed off mother!!!!!,

You poor, put upon woman. How sad and unjust that you have to put up with such an upsetting disturbance in your neighbourhood. A kid making noise!!!!! It’s unbelievable that in the modern world your children must face the horror of a child who is different from them! Simply intolerable.

Yeah, no.

Where does one even begin to address the sheer and utter repugnance of a person who could not only write this, but actually post it? What could have been going through your nasty, narrow mind as you dropped it in the mailbox? Are you actually incapable of imagining the challenges this family faces? Were you sadistically picturing that woman’s face crumpling in tears, or did you just not think at all?

I thought this was a hoax when I first saw it. I truly did not believe that any human being could be so self-centred, ignorant and lacking in empathy to write with such unadulterated cruelty. I believe even the Westboro Baptist church would think twice. So thanks a lot for ruining just a little more of my faith in humanity.

Let me tell you something, you pathetic sack of shit, having “normal” children does not give you the right to special treatment either. Where on Earth do you think you live? How did you come to believe that you somehow have more rights than anyone else? That you are somehow entitled to never have to face that which you don’t like or understand?

Now, I’ll admit it. Some people are goddamn unsettling to be around. Mentally challenged people are sometimes really disturbing. It’s true and I’m not so politically correct that I can’t say that. But dealing with people who challenge your tolerance is what living in a society is all about. And you have every right to feel unsettled and disturbed, but you don’t have the right to take a shit on someone else’s life just because you’re upset.

Here is the difference between you and that autistic boy. He can’t help the ugly sounds that sometimes come out of his mouth. You can.

He scares your kids does he? Teach them not to be afraid. Teach them that some people are different. Teach them that just because something scares them doesn’t mean it’s bad.

Of course in order to do that you’d have to be conscious of that yourself. You’d have to stop thinking the universe revolves around you and your precious kids for a minute.

Speaking of your kids, what if you had a child with mental disabilities? You can coldly tell a child’s grandmother to have him euthanized, but would that be your attitude toward your own child? If the answer is yes, you just got even more horrible. If no, then you understand the choice his mother made in loving the child she gave birth to and giving him the best life she can. But you are still horrible.

As it is, you are raising children who are doomed to be as poisonous as you are. I hope that when you are old and feeble and “no good to anyone” and they dump you in a nursing home and never look back that you aren’t too surprised. I hope you remember who made them what they are.

Or maybe they’ll just do us all a favour and have you euthanized.

I have a nephew who suffers from ADHD and autism. He’s a tough kid to handle sometimes but I love him all the same. He has shitty neighbours too. Not as shitty as you of course but they make his life harder and I hate them for it. They are disgusting human beings and they need a kick in the face for having it in them to be cruel to any child. You need several. Like, one for every exclamation point in your awful, awful letter.

You surely can’t have missed the fact that your vicious words have gone viral on social media and that every news outlet is running this story. You’re internationally famous! And lady, you deserve to be renowned far and wide for the ugliness of your character and the crappiness of your grammar. I hope you become such a pariah that you have to move. That would be poetic justice.

In closing, learn to spell. And then go fuck yourself.

Sincerely,

One outraged auntie

*UPDATE* Please note that this post has been seen by WAY more people than I ever expected and I have a bit more to say about it here.

Also there appears to be a misconception that I am the boy’s auntie. I’m not, I don’t know them at all, but I have a nephew who faces similar issues and this letter made me mad.